Monday, April 13, 2009

Easter Day 2:Coming Out to My Dad

The entire conversation:

Me: Dad, I have something I'd like to tell you.

Dad: Yes?

Me: It's about Beloved and me.

Dad: Yes?

Me: She's my girlfriend. We are in a relationship. (Imagine hand gestures... indicating connection between two people.)

Dad: I surmised as much.

Me: I thought you should know. She's a really good person, and she makes me very happy.

Dad: Well, that's what's important.

Me: And [the children] really love her.

Dad: So everyone's happy.

Me: That's right.

That's it. Then we talked about the Somali pirates.

So, that's done. Thanks be to God.

29 comments:

parodie said...

Alleluia! :)
I'm glad it went so well. Congratulations on taking such a big step, and happy Easter!

Wormwood's Doxy said...

God bless your Dad, Cecilia. May that hurdle be the harbinger of the revelations to come.

Pax,
Doxy

Jennifer said...

Praise be to God! Good parents somehow raise raise good children....and the blessings pour forth.

Sophia said...

Hallelujah! I am so glad to hear this, dearest Cecilia. Go you, go God. (Uh, not in that order, as my grad school BF used to say).

IT said...

Don't you love how good parents get it before you say it? Mine did too. I love them and they love me. Would it were so for more of our GLBT brothers and sisters.

Songbird said...

Love this, I am smiling. There are many people who will respond just that way, I feel sure.

Choralgirl said...

OutSTANDing. :-) Happy for you, hon.

John Shuck said...

You are so awesome! And so is your Dad! Your post reminded me of SONiA's Me, Too.

Being Out RocksI am very happy for you!

bugs said...

I am so happy for you! my own 'coming out' to my parents this past week has been much less desirable. And yes, Easter is such an appropriate time, speaking of death and new life.

May the rest of your journey be as smooth

Sara said...

We parents should love our children, the way God made them. It breaks my heart when children are rejected, for any reason, by their parents. I am so happy that your Dad loves you unconditionally, for who you are. Prayers that God guides the rest of your journey and that you have peace.

Fr Kenny said...

This is brilliant news! Go with it! Next step the Congregation.... most already know, surely?

FranIAm said...

Thanks be to God indeed!

I am so glad to read this, a real message of Easter.

Just me said...

Cecilia i am so glad for you. I watched milk with my girlfriend on Saturday - Thank you for the recommendation - I felt so inspired by Harvey Milk's and the gay rights movement's courage. I also felt shocked that it happened so very recently and that Christians were at the forefront of the persecution. I am a teacher so prop 5 would have seen me lose my job and any who stood up for me would also have lost theirs. How can Prop 8 have passed in a state that has already fought and won such great battles. I felt like afterwards that I wanted to be a closet Christian - I felt so ashamed.
Thank you for your advice on previous postings I turn to you now. Last night my girlfriend muted the fact that she would like a threesome - being a Christian I was appalled at thought of sex without love - the harm this has already done me in my life. But she thinks that there is nothing wrong with it - that sex is just sex - it is not to do with love and that God wouldn't mind a threesome. I balked, fell apart - it has taken me so much to have a relationship with her when I have been taught for so long homosexuality is wrong - even when I didn't agree it still took a huge amount of love to be intimate with her. She has ended things this morning because she doesn't want to deny her sexuality the way she has for so long - all of it both the homosexuality and the fantasies. She feels most Christians will say all of it is wrong, from masturbation to sex aids so the morality of it is irrelevant. I am a victim of sexual abuse as a child and for sex to be anything than love is like torture for me and she doesn't want to hurt me more-but to lose her like this is a horror in itself - bringing constantly to the surface the feelings of being dirty - that what we had is diminished - tarnished. I know it is all very dysfunctional but we have grown so much together - come so far - through so much. How do I deal with this? Where is your position as a Christian what is and isn't right sexually and in what contexts.

Saintly Ramblings said...

Great! That's sent me off to the shops with a smile!

Grandmère Mimi said...

Lovely, Cecilia. I am so happy for you and your dad. God bless you both.

suzanne said...

Good for you, Ceclia. That took alot of courage.

KJ said...

LOL. I love hearing stories like that. There just has to be an easy self-outing or two!

Sophia said...

P.S. This reminds me of when a dear friend in my prayer group came out in college....As he told each of us, we said "I know, I love you, thank you for telling me, tell me about your sweetie." He said after this happened repeatedly he half-expected the next person to say "Oh, did you just figure it out?"

Sarah S-D said...

Woohoo! Thanks be to God!

Big sigh of relief.

May this give you much strength for the journey ahead.

Mary Beth said...

Thanks be! So grateful and happy for you. Praying for the rest of the process...

August said...

:)

Jan said...

Yay! No wonder you turned out so well--you're like your dad! What a good man. So happy for you all.

Processing Counselor said...

So, he already knew. That happened with my aunt...after YEARS!

LittleMary said...

holy crap. wow. that's really it?

Rachel said...

I am overcome with joy and tears. Alleluia Alleluia Alleluia! Just me, my heart is with you as you discern through this difficult time.

IT said...

JustMe, your post is very sad. FWIW I agree with your values and I believe sex should occur in the context of a committed and loving relationship as a physical expression of emotional and spiritual union. Others do not agree, which is of course their right, but i personally can't imagine reducing sex to "scratching an itch".

jsd said...

I'm very glad it went well! Blessings!

Jane R said...

Hurrah for you and for your Dad! (((Cecilia and Beloved)))

Kate said...

o.O

AWESOME.