The first of my trips was this week... three days with Beloved where we didn't have to do anything except drive and be together in the location of our choice, a very cool town where were were among Our People. I can hardly describe it, this opportunity to just be.
For one thing we slept. We slept and slept. I think I go through life sleep-deprived, and when I don't need to answer to an alarm, my body takes over and I crave sleep the way the addict longs for her heroin. We never rose until nearly 11 both mornings we were away, and it was absolutely the tonic we both needed.
For another thing, we allowed ourselves the luxury of spontaneity. We were near a college with a famous art collection. Over our very late breakfast we decided to walk there... a glorious summer walk through a beautiful landscape, to see fantastic, thought-provoking art. Later we saw a movie theater offering an Antonioni and Bergman retrospective, so we lined up with all the other acolytes to worship at that curious and disturbing shrine. We spent what felt like hours in a cafe, reading to one another from the New York Times.
Home, too soon, but I was so happy to see my daughter. (Son is off to college... already!). And work beckoned... a visit with an ill parishioner, another visit with one who has had joint replacement surgery, a prickly man who for the first time talked with me about matters of substance, life and death and grief. Good, good work, following my good, good time of renewal and reconnection.
Thursday, August 30, 2007
Saturday, August 25, 2007
Waiting
... for a line of severe thunderstorms to make their way through my town, to break up the humidity. It's 87 degrees here, and the sun went down hours ago.
Praying for people who are in danger from this weather.
Wondering why I can't think of anything to write about.
Loving this virtual community all the same.
Praying for people who are in danger from this weather.
Wondering why I can't think of anything to write about.
Loving this virtual community all the same.
Tuesday, August 21, 2007
Back to School
In my house it is that time of year again. My son's books have started arriving for his fall semester... his university bookstore and Amazon are responsible for this. I watched him place the orders the other day... it took him about 13 minutes, a far cry from my (admittedly antediluvian) college experience of actually standing in line at the bookstore with my arms breaking. My daughter is more about the clothes than the books at the moment, but that's only because, as a high school student, she doesn't have access to her books just yet. (Where we live school starts after Labor Day).
I am in a back-to-school mood myself, with regard to the "program year" at church. This is the time to decide what bible studies, other adult ed opportunities, sermon series, youth activities, etc. will be offered this year (not my decisions alone, of course... we are all about shared ministry in my church). But one does have the feeling, when looking through the Cokesbury catalog, for example, that one is in a great big theological candy shop, and the possibilities are limitless.
Beloved and I have two trips planned as well, one by car and one by plane, in the first instance to have a few days alone in a great gay-friendly city and in the second to visit her daughter and grandchildren. When we get home, it will be back to school indeed, for all of us, Beloved included, as she has a seasonal business cycle too.
And so I am wondering: what will it be this year? What will the fall bring?
I am in a back-to-school mood myself, with regard to the "program year" at church. This is the time to decide what bible studies, other adult ed opportunities, sermon series, youth activities, etc. will be offered this year (not my decisions alone, of course... we are all about shared ministry in my church). But one does have the feeling, when looking through the Cokesbury catalog, for example, that one is in a great big theological candy shop, and the possibilities are limitless.
Beloved and I have two trips planned as well, one by car and one by plane, in the first instance to have a few days alone in a great gay-friendly city and in the second to visit her daughter and grandchildren. When we get home, it will be back to school indeed, for all of us, Beloved included, as she has a seasonal business cycle too.
And so I am wondering: what will it be this year? What will the fall bring?
Friday, August 17, 2007
And another thing...
... about Beloved.
She gave me that book, which I so happily and greedily devoured this week. A book about a minister and her faith journey. And Beloved is, as I may have mentioned here already, an atheist. At least, that's what she says.
And yet she holds some ideas that don't quite go along with atheism. For example. When she was young (in her 20's) she was very ill, and went into a coma that lasted nearly a month. During that time she had a vivid experience of Jesus. She says that she saw him, that he looked like the Roman Catholic depictions in which the Sacred Heart is open and visible. And she felt a tremendous sense of peace emanating from him, as well as a sense of encouragement. She understood from him that she could choose her path: death, which was not frightening except for the fact of leaving her young daughter behind; or life, which entailed a long recovery and significant physical suffering. With his encouragement she chose life and recovery.
But it's all a fairy tale, and he's just a nice idea. She says.
Another belief she expressed recently floored me. She spoke of her mother, a less than ideal human being, and a stepfather who, if there is a hell, is surely roasting slowly on a spit (I hope). And she said, That's one thing I worry about, with respect to dying.
What's that? I asked.
Seeing them again, she replied. How awful that would be. The threat of that will keep me alive a very long time.
It is unfair, of course, for me to ask Beloved (or anyone, for that matter) to have consistency in the matter of her views on religion. I understand that about 33% of Americans believe in reincarnation. That means that a substantial number of Christians believe in it. Of all the things I've been tempted to believe, I have to admit... that's not one of them. But apparently a significant minority of Christians think that the transmigration of the soul is not inconsistent with Christian belief.
Beloved is understandably skeptical about religion. She thinks there are an awful lot of charlatans out there, preying on the gullible masses and doing lots of damage along the way. She thinks I'm alright... at least we know I'm not telling people that gays are an abomination unto the Lord. She thinks I'm more than alright, actually... she came to my church the Sunday after Christmas a couple of years ago, and heard me preach, just once. She told me it was very beautiful, and that I have a gift, and that she'll not be coming again.
That is fine with me. I don't need my lover to accept the tenets of my faith in order for us to be together. I hope that we knit together something fine, my faith and trust in God and in her, and hers in me and in her skepticism. I hope that together we can see more clearly than either of us can see alone. I hope that, through me, God can show her a Christianity that celebrates who she is and offers welcome at love's table, should she ever decide to come back.
She gave me that book, which I so happily and greedily devoured this week. A book about a minister and her faith journey. And Beloved is, as I may have mentioned here already, an atheist. At least, that's what she says.
And yet she holds some ideas that don't quite go along with atheism. For example. When she was young (in her 20's) she was very ill, and went into a coma that lasted nearly a month. During that time she had a vivid experience of Jesus. She says that she saw him, that he looked like the Roman Catholic depictions in which the Sacred Heart is open and visible. And she felt a tremendous sense of peace emanating from him, as well as a sense of encouragement. She understood from him that she could choose her path: death, which was not frightening except for the fact of leaving her young daughter behind; or life, which entailed a long recovery and significant physical suffering. With his encouragement she chose life and recovery.
But it's all a fairy tale, and he's just a nice idea. She says.
Another belief she expressed recently floored me. She spoke of her mother, a less than ideal human being, and a stepfather who, if there is a hell, is surely roasting slowly on a spit (I hope). And she said, That's one thing I worry about, with respect to dying.
What's that? I asked.
Seeing them again, she replied. How awful that would be. The threat of that will keep me alive a very long time.
It is unfair, of course, for me to ask Beloved (or anyone, for that matter) to have consistency in the matter of her views on religion. I understand that about 33% of Americans believe in reincarnation. That means that a substantial number of Christians believe in it. Of all the things I've been tempted to believe, I have to admit... that's not one of them. But apparently a significant minority of Christians think that the transmigration of the soul is not inconsistent with Christian belief.
Beloved is understandably skeptical about religion. She thinks there are an awful lot of charlatans out there, preying on the gullible masses and doing lots of damage along the way. She thinks I'm alright... at least we know I'm not telling people that gays are an abomination unto the Lord. She thinks I'm more than alright, actually... she came to my church the Sunday after Christmas a couple of years ago, and heard me preach, just once. She told me it was very beautiful, and that I have a gift, and that she'll not be coming again.
That is fine with me. I don't need my lover to accept the tenets of my faith in order for us to be together. I hope that we knit together something fine, my faith and trust in God and in her, and hers in me and in her skepticism. I hope that together we can see more clearly than either of us can see alone. I hope that, through me, God can show her a Christianity that celebrates who she is and offers welcome at love's table, should she ever decide to come back.
Thursday, August 16, 2007
Bullets of a Summer Day, plus a Book Review
* Beloved and I walked this morning. It is incredibly humid and oppressive... thunderstorms on the way.
* Summer is rushing by as if hurrying to meet her chilly lover.
* Children grow so fast... and they have different tastes than I ... and they don't take my advice terribly seriously, either... and I can hurt them so carelessly, with a single sigh. And... I can hear the two of them singing in harmony, even as I type this... what wondrous love...
* Recurring dream: my mother is subjecting me to some kind of medical procedure... one with shame attached to it. A voice in my head asks, Whose body is this?
***
Beloved gave me this book, for my end of summer reading. I cannot remember devouring a book with such fierce pleasure in a long time. It is the story of a woman (a writer) whose husband (a Maine state trooper) is killed in a traffic collision. She decides to go to seminary, and winds up a chaplain for the Maine game wardens (no, it's not so that she can bless the moose). This memoir, in which she addresses her grief, her life as a single parent to four children, and her extraordinary call to ministry, is not sentimental or maudlin. She gently mocks the Plucky Widow archetype she so brilliantly embodies. She tells her story simply and clearly, and talks about her work, in which she is called upon to minister to families and officers as they await or participate in search and rescue and recovery missions. She has found her calling being with people who touch her in her place of deepest woundedness and loss, and at the same time enable her healing. And she's funny. I would be weeping and suddenly snorting with laughter within a single paragraph. Oh. Read it, I beg you.
* Summer is rushing by as if hurrying to meet her chilly lover.
* Children grow so fast... and they have different tastes than I ... and they don't take my advice terribly seriously, either... and I can hurt them so carelessly, with a single sigh. And... I can hear the two of them singing in harmony, even as I type this... what wondrous love...
* Recurring dream: my mother is subjecting me to some kind of medical procedure... one with shame attached to it. A voice in my head asks, Whose body is this?
***
Beloved gave me this book, for my end of summer reading. I cannot remember devouring a book with such fierce pleasure in a long time. It is the story of a woman (a writer) whose husband (a Maine state trooper) is killed in a traffic collision. She decides to go to seminary, and winds up a chaplain for the Maine game wardens (no, it's not so that she can bless the moose). This memoir, in which she addresses her grief, her life as a single parent to four children, and her extraordinary call to ministry, is not sentimental or maudlin. She gently mocks the Plucky Widow archetype she so brilliantly embodies. She tells her story simply and clearly, and talks about her work, in which she is called upon to minister to families and officers as they await or participate in search and rescue and recovery missions. She has found her calling being with people who touch her in her place of deepest woundedness and loss, and at the same time enable her healing. And she's funny. I would be weeping and suddenly snorting with laughter within a single paragraph. Oh. Read it, I beg you.
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Gird Your Loins
I have a seminary friend who is an out Metropolitan Community Church pastor, working hard to plant a new congregation. She and I often exchange sermons in the writing stages... we chat on the phone. The other day we were talking about this morning's passage from Luke, and she began to tell me excitedly about the girding up of loins, and how it is used only three times in the gospels... in Mark and Matthew, referring to John the Baptizer, and here, talking to disciples and the various crowds and hangers on who comprise Luke's "little flock."
Girding up the loins... i.e., my friend says, hitching your skirts up through your legs and being ready to run, a la Elijah... running towards the kingdom, or as she refers to it, the common wealth (two words).
As I preach this text, it occurs to me yet again that it is God's word to me (amazing how I constantly, consistently miss that). That I must be ready... you all know for what.
I have entered again a period of some complacency, in which it seems I will be able to fly beneath the radar for a while... I want to do this. I want to attract no attention to my relationship with Beloved. (Perhaps I shouldn't have parties on my front porch, you say?). I want to be a simple country parson, tending my little flock (or, really running around yipping at it, since I'm a sheepdog and no shepherd). I want to blink innocently and say, "Whatever do you mean?" if someone should ask me about Beloved, because I truly think it has not a damned thing to do with whether I am a good pastor or not.
And Jesus is telling me, hitch up those skirts girl. Run towards it.
Girding up the loins... i.e., my friend says, hitching your skirts up through your legs and being ready to run, a la Elijah... running towards the kingdom, or as she refers to it, the common wealth (two words).
As I preach this text, it occurs to me yet again that it is God's word to me (amazing how I constantly, consistently miss that). That I must be ready... you all know for what.
I have entered again a period of some complacency, in which it seems I will be able to fly beneath the radar for a while... I want to do this. I want to attract no attention to my relationship with Beloved. (Perhaps I shouldn't have parties on my front porch, you say?). I want to be a simple country parson, tending my little flock (or, really running around yipping at it, since I'm a sheepdog and no shepherd). I want to blink innocently and say, "Whatever do you mean?" if someone should ask me about Beloved, because I truly think it has not a damned thing to do with whether I am a good pastor or not.
And Jesus is telling me, hitch up those skirts girl. Run towards it.
Wednesday, August 8, 2007
A Six-Year-Old Recounts VBS
My daughter is babysitting the daughter of the contractor for my roof. This child is six years old, but with the voice of a 40-year-old, two-pack-a-day woman. She has been telling us about Vacation Bible School.
"OK, so we were learning about the Jewish army?" she said, between bites of her popcorn chicken. "And we had to make this wall? By, you know, climbing on top of each other? And I had this kid on my back, and let me tell you..." and she paused for effect, "I thought I was gonna lose it. And we just..." and she flung her arms out, "collapsed!"
She ate thoughtfully for a few moments.
"Then, instead of being the wall, we were the Jewish army, marching around the wall. But instead of marching," she whispered conspiratorially, "we started to skip. It was hilarious!"
Moving on to her coleslaw, she began to describe a song they'd done with gestures. "It starts like, 'Jesus,'" and she touched each palm with the opposite middle finger, and her voice trailed off as she raised her hands above her head, and then brought them back in front of her in a gesture of prayer. "I know the motions, but not so much the words," she said. "But the other kids... man, they were singing and rocking out. It was crazy!"
"OK, so we were learning about the Jewish army?" she said, between bites of her popcorn chicken. "And we had to make this wall? By, you know, climbing on top of each other? And I had this kid on my back, and let me tell you..." and she paused for effect, "I thought I was gonna lose it. And we just..." and she flung her arms out, "collapsed!"
She ate thoughtfully for a few moments.
"Then, instead of being the wall, we were the Jewish army, marching around the wall. But instead of marching," she whispered conspiratorially, "we started to skip. It was hilarious!"
Moving on to her coleslaw, she began to describe a song they'd done with gestures. "It starts like, 'Jesus,'" and she touched each palm with the opposite middle finger, and her voice trailed off as she raised her hands above her head, and then brought them back in front of her in a gesture of prayer. "I know the motions, but not so much the words," she said. "But the other kids... man, they were singing and rocking out. It was crazy!"
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